Entrepreneurship and exploring your greatest fear
As an entrepreneur, the last thing you want to think about is exploring your greatest fear but knowing your mindset and having the ability to shift your fear from an enemy to an ally is necessary to make it in the business world. I want to share seven monumental nuggets of wisdom to help you explore your greatest fear and change the way you interact with fear in order to move forward in your business.
You know that One Annoying Friend You Love So Much?
Okay, we’re not talking about that one girl you’ve known since 5th grade. Still, I do want you to think about that one person in your life. If you don’t have her, then a character from a movie will do. Use her to condition your mindset and shift your perspective on fear a little bit.
Conditioning your mindset is a path to moving past fear.
Exploring your greatest fear in business is a start but shifting your perspective on fear is the ultimate goal. Fear is immobilizing. You think of all the possible catastrophes and let them stop you cold in your tracks.
When you think of fear as a friend, the annoying one who never wants to have any fun. Fear is that girl. Well when you put it that way, your friend isn’t so bad. She means well. You still love her. She may keep you from staying out past 10 p.m., but she cares.
How to do it
When you want to make a change, and all the negativity starts to flood your mind here’s what you do.
Stop the thought and counter it with a positive. You need to talk some sense into fear. Your friend wants you to be safe, and you want her to live. She wants to keep you in check, return the favor help her live a little.
Learning to counter fear and fight back will take some time. However, if you don’t keep the positive front of mind, you’ll drown in negativity.
Negativity leads to inaction, and if you don’t act, then you fail by default.
I don’t know about you, but I’d rather give it my all and fail than to give up before I’ve even started. At least you’ll have the wisdom of that failure to get you to the next step in your life.
Successful people believe failure creates success. Who would know more about success than successful people do? Refuse to let life pass you by because the fear of failure is keeping you down.
Learn to Fail.
Why you don’t have what you want
Here’s a two for one on the nuggets.
It’s human nature to do whatever it takes to avoid discomfort and pain. It’s also human nature to do whatever it takes to experience pleasure
We will opt for avoiding discomfort and pain if preventing pain and discomfort is possible at the moment. Even if we know, we will experience pleasure in the future.
These two truth nuggets are why most people never realize their real potential. Knowing that you’re giving up something significant for immediate relief of your discomfort doesn’t keep you from doing it.
It’s human nature to take the path of least resistance. Why? There’s no guarantee of future pleasure. Relief of pain, on the other hand, is already tempting us, its right in front of us, so we take the bait.
You know that time you took a promotion at your job even though you dreamed of quitting every single day? That’s not you?
Okay here’s another example. You’re thinking of going back to work for someone else. You’re afraid of where this entrepreneur thing will lead you. It’s tough, and your old boss offered you your job back. My friend, this is the temptation of the path of least resistance.
How do you get past accepting the first offer life hands you?
The offer of a comfortable existence in exchange for your hopes and dreams is a significant and unfair trade. You have a severe disadvantage here, uncertainty.
This situation was like when you tried to sell your old car to pay your rent. The problem was, the only offer on the table was half what the car was worth. You took the offer because you were desperate. It sucked, but you did what you had to do. The next day someone offered you full price plus an extra thousand for your trouble.
Let me give you some more nuggets:
If failing to reach your goals will hurt more than staying the same, you will make the change.
If you want something for the wrong reasons, you’ve already lost. I don’t mean you won’t get what you want. I’m only suggesting that getting what you want for the wrong reasons will never make you happy.
Let me break this one down a little bit more. Hypothetically, let’s say your goal is to have a million dollars. Are you motivated to have a million dollars or do you just want to avoid being poor? I know on the outside the question is arbitrary, but believe me, it matters.
Associating negativity with being poor will always keep you driven by not being poor. Therefore, instead of enjoying your life of abundance, you’re only going to worry about losing it. The fear will always be in the back of your mind.
Avoidance is not a value you want to live by.
How to do it
In this situation, you have to change your relationship with money and how it motivates you. Instead of merely wanting the money, ask yourself why you want it. What can money do for you? If the only purpose is power, attention, and respect than money isn’t your goal. When exploring your greatest fear can you associate it with the things you want the most?
If you can make your future pain real, you can overcome your current knee-jerk reaction to ignore it.
Okay, that’s confusing, I know. Let me attempt to explain this again, and then I’ll tell you what to do.
Second attempt at big nugget #7
If you know what you want and you want it for the right reasons, then you have everything it takes to make it happen. You will not only realize your dreams, but you’ll be happier and stronger because you chose to make the journey.
How to do it
Exploring your greatest fear. Focus on what might happen if you don’t succeed in achieving what you want. Make it as dim and gloomy as possible. Pull every heart string you have.
Picture the worst case scenario vividly in your mind. Make yourself feel the pain of not reaching your goals. Do this to the point where you’re stomach flips, and the pain in your chest just may bring you to tears.
Once you’ve felt your future pain, you will be motivated to change. Mindset is powerful. Keep doing this.
When your instinct is to give up, bring yourself to this place of pain. Create a compelling shift in your mindset that will give you motivation when there is none. Keeping this pain with you generates endurance when it’s easier to give up. Having the ability to feel your future pain is why exploring your greatest fear is so important. You have to know your fear in order to conquer it.
If the pain you bring yourself to is higher than the discomfort you have in your life right now, you will find a way.
You always do.
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Until next time, keep moving forward.